www.flickr.com
This is a Flickr badge showing public photos from suitablegirl. Make you own badge here.


my inner DJ is currently spinning...

  • unti! she (omes
    t h e p s y ( h e d e ! i c f u r s:
  • (all me
    b ! o n d ! e:
  • Lazy eye
    s i ! v e r s p u n p i c k u p s:
  • md! md!
    T h o m p s o n T w ! n s:
  • p!owed
    s p o n g e: Rotting Pinata
  • dig for fire
    p i + i e s:
  • detachable pe...
    k i n g m i s s i ! e:
  • blue sky mine
    m ! d n ! g h t 0 i l:
  • vapour trail
    r i d e:
  • in to your arms
    t h e l e m o n h e a d s:
  • birdhouse in your soul
    T M B G:
  • once in a lifetime
    t a ! k i n g h e a d s:
  • 0nly happy when it rains
    g a r b a g e:
  • Q.0.L.
    D M :
  • down in it
    N!N:
  • she's so high
    b ! u r:
  • P!ctures 0f you
    t h e ( u r e:

90210 via the 300 in 1992

...the one I drove was prettier, though.  :)  Like a silver-bronze, double-color Kanjeevaram. 

Obviously, it was Daddy's wehicle, but since it was bigger, slower and safer (ABS!  Airbag! In the late 80s/early 90s?? Woooo!) my father tended to start this in the mornings, wordlessly vs. my ride, and then hand me the keys, pointedly.  There was no arguing, "but...but...what about...my...fast...car with the booming system??" at that point.  ;) 

Big beats bumpin with the bass in back
All the sophisticated suckers catch a heart attack
Cos they don't understand why I act this way
Pumpin up the funky beat until the break of day
It's because I want attention when i'm ridin by
And the boys be on my kundi cos my system's fly


Um, those are totally the lyrics, btw. ;)

Anyway, I wish it were still alive, but it went to car heaven in 2003, after 360k+ faithful, solid, QUIET miles.  R.I.P. Martin (each of our cars-- except for mine-- was named by either me or my sister after a member of Depeche Mode.  Have I dated myself enough yet?)

As of 11:46 tonight, I am 33-years old [updated]

This is a photograph from my fourth birthday party.

My mom is wearing her wedding sari and I'm wearing a floor-length dress with a prominent red velvet bow in my hair. The little girl on the floor, on the other side of my Mom was my then-best friend, Annie. Her father was my father's best friend; it worked out nicely.

Yes, I have a spot of cake on my face; it was one of my favorite birthday cakes of all time, because it had a lemon-filling. My 6-month old sister smashed part of her head in to it, happily. She had just started to pull herself up to a standing position at that age, and the table my cake was on was almost at her eye-level.

There were over 100 people crammed in to our house for this "evening" event, which my Dad lived for; it was his famous "New Year's/Birthday/Christmas bash", which he held annually on the first weekend in January.  I really miss it.  I always felt like such a special girl, because my birthdays were so huge and happy. 

Since 1999, we have not celebrated, because the man who organized it all, who exulted in the merriment, is gone.  To some, I sound oddly petty as a 33-year old lamenting the lack of celebrating but for those who grew up with me, they know.  Twenty years of huge parties created a subconscious expectation of more of them, and to abruptly end such a glittering, fun tradition was brutal, not because I was the proto-type for those twats on My Super Sweet 16, but because it is confirmation that my father is really gone.

One day, when I'm married, I'm going to bring that tradition back. I've felt incomplete without it. Maybe by then, there will be a different little girl, in a similar dress, with ribbons in her hair.  I hope that I can make her feel as loved as I was when this picture was taken, a moment before my mom took the edge of her precious Kanjeevaram sari and gently brushed the frosting off my cheek.

Love, love, LOVE.

I had a HUGE smile on my face by the end of this; you will, too. Thanks D, for sending it my way. :)

to do


mom 002, originally uploaded by suitablegirl.

- $
- mail
- EFAs
- laundry
- water plants
- SD card reader
- find spare iBattery
- change aquarium h2o
- toss both trash + recycling
- three chargers + 2 batts + shuffle
- remember to take orange saltwaters
- clean stupid mineral eye shadow from sink
- play tetris to free suitcase from back of closet
- figure out carry-on (also! pack meds + one outfit)
- drop vacation fish food which looks like sweet tarts
- go home after *13 long months* and hug your mother

:)

I heart Moms on IM.

Mom: you ready to go home or you did go already
Sent at 7:41 PM on Monday

Mom: ok i am going home. love you. bye

me: love you too! bye mommy, sorry I couldn't talk.

Mom: when are you going home

me: in about 5 mins

Mom: ok, don't stay so late. bye

Perspective via arroz, frijoles negros, crema y queso (para llevar)

On my way back from Chipotle, I passed this woman who was just leaving the gym which I am also a member of, though I'm sure she uses it as more than a guaranteed place to pee in two major cities with no "you-must-buy-something-to-use-the-facility"-hassles; she had vertical lines on her abs and an amazingly fit figure. "I remember when I worked out 6 days a week and I looked half as good as that," I muttered to myself.

I almost walked in to a homeless person when I saw her duck in to FUDDRUCKER's for what I can only assume was her post-workout snack. I remember shrugging and then thinking, damn, what a lucky woman.

My GChat status was outdated, so I changed it to

"Yummy yummy yummy I have Chipotle in my tummy",

in part because one of my closest friends lives in the only remaining pocket of Amreeka with NO Chipotle and he regularly craves it-- yeah, I'm kind like that. A few hours later:

kt: how do you eat chipotle and all these good foods and remain so damn stick thin? please tell me the secret.

...and my view changed thanks to this friend whom I rarely see, who is quite a stunner herself.  Suddenly, perspective rested like two reassuring hands on my shoulders, reminding me that we are all constantly looking at someone else, wishing we could eat at Fuddrucker's and still have a six-pack.  Thanks, kt.  :)

Illy is here!


Illy is here!, originally uploaded by suitablegirl.

Beyond being a ridiculously awesome Saturday because the meetup was so spectacular, today was extra blessed and wonderful; I discovered that Illy now has a cafe in DC.  Illy is my favorite espresso, ever, it's the entire reason why I think Greco's cappuccinos are so sublime. 

Illy's space is small but so brightly appealing...all clean lines and elegant design.  I wish they'd expand all over the place.  They don't need to be as ubiquitous as Starsucks, but if there was one near my work...ah, I'd be a blissed out girl, yindeed.  One of my friends was massively amused that something like this could make me sooo happy; they apparently don't know that I've been passionately addicted to coffee since I was 18 months old (according to dear departed Deddy).  Good coffee is totally something to get gleeful over, yes, yes it is.  :)

COOKIECOOKIECOOKIE STARTS WITH C

For Azhagan, who totally asked for it.  (And Cookie Monster owns Doordarshan, as if you didn't know):

What a Beautiful Surprise...


I LOVE THEM!!, originally uploaded by suitablegirl.

...this day gets better and better. :) Azhagan, thank you. I love them. And I haven't had any since my birthday, so this feels extra special. Even more thrilling? All the attention from people in my office (which is 90% male!), who immediately notice them as they walk by...if there's one thing I love about desi men, it's how they aren't afraid to be a teensy bit girly. The three brown guys whom I work with all stopped and declared that they were beautiful, and wasn't it "all soooo sweet", and "now tell us, who sent them?" with the same degree of enthusiasm that the women here showed. :D

From feeling taken for granted yesterday (at work and online) to receiving tulips "just because" today...it is all so delightful and welcome.

I'm a lucky girl. I am, I am. :)

Belated Lupercalia


Sneham, originally uploaded by suitablegirl.

...to me.  :)  Neither ice nor rain nor sleet nor snow...could dampen my spirits when I saw these waiting for me at our Security checkpoint, downstairs.   Most floral deliveries were suspended on V-day itself, due to the tatti weather-- weather so bad I couldn't make it in to work.  No matter.  Any day when gorgeousness like this graces my desk is a perfect day.

Most hilarious aspect of all of this:  my all-male office was smitten with these long stems (there's only two other women on my floor-- both were gone), they kept sniffing them. 

Most irritating aspect of all of this:  I won't get to enjoy them...they arrived at 5pm and I leave for Atlanta tomorrow morning.  Sigh.  :(  Maybe if I stay up all night, I'll be able to swoon over them...

Now we are Three...

...two.  32.  I've always liked the number; when my father let us pick Super Lotto possibilities with him, "32" was a constant selection.  It felt lucky.  With every aging cell in my body, I hope it still is.

If my Father were still alive, he would be throwing his famous "Orthodox Christmas/Anna's Birthday/New Year's" extravaganza this Saturday.  He always celebrated my day with such excitement and love.  Every year, I got a frothy, brand new dress, just like the one above, usually from Macy's.  When I was older, in the last few years before I lost him, I got jewelry, as well.  He was building a trousseau I might never need; at 32, I know that the impossible is probable and I may never "settle down".

I can live without the dresses and the gold, but I can't truly celebrate my birthday without my Father.  He wanted a daughter so badly and this was the day he got his wish, at the advanced age of 38; he never let anyone forget how grateful he was for it.  I will forever remember how special he made me feel, every new year.  In 2007, there may not be a party at our home with a 100+ guests, there will be no champagne toast...but there's a beautiful new bottle of Perrier-Jouet in my refrigerator and when it's popped at 11:46 tonight, I'll be toasting life, love and the much-adored man who marvelled through glass at a baby with very big eyes (21.5 inches, 8 lbs) who made her arrival 32 years ago, today.  Thanks Mummy and Daddy, for letting me be.

Some Sugar for a New Year

Happy 2007, minnows.  So, as some of you have noticed, I've had no desire to post anything here...until now. Someone wrote me something so sweet (and completely undeserved) after I spat my "I am a dark girl, hear me ROAR"-rant on the "exploitation thread" on SM, I actually felt like opening up TypePad again...which is good, because once I get this post out of the way, I know I'll be more likely to write.  There's some weird barrier up right now, between me and this diary of mine...because it's been a little while since my last post and it's been quite the emotional while, as well.  Nothing to it, but to do it.

So this is what I found in my GMail, from an absolute sweetheart who sometimes comments on SM:

3:06 PM  Ned'sAtomicDustbinFan:  strong words in your rant

3:12 PM  Ned'sAtomicDustbinFan:  but I liked it, and to be perfectly honest (before I get back to working) that while I've heard people make comments about "pretty for a dark girl" or "pretty for a black girl", etc, I think you're pretty, period. Honestly, if I were forced to choose between you and most every Bollywood star (Ash, or Gracy Singh, for example), I'd pick you...but that's just me.

Squeee, bitches!  Now THAT is a ridiculously good birthday present, a day early to boot!  Thanks, MR...the only thing greater than your taste in music (Pixies?!  Shoegazer??) is your kindness. <3

If I ever get the E-Porsche

911hb964c2_1


...I'm going to name it Shadowfax. I'm sure my intended will be fine with that, since I tend to fall in love with bespectacled engineers (ChemE a +) who are sure to appreciate and allow such silliness.

Then again, I've always agreed with Salma Hayek, who once famously declared:

"I'll get married when I find a man who has more cojones than I do."

My father constantly told me similar as I was growing up; he insisted that if I didn't get married, it would be fine with him, since I should only do so if I found someone worthy of life-long devotion.

"Never settle.  Ever.  I don't need to pay for a wedding or see a grandchild THAT badly.  You are precious. If someone doesn't see that, you shouldn't marry him.  To hell with them and anyone else who tells you to get married because 'you have to'.  Who the hell are they. Fuck them. "

Sigh. So, it's entirely possible that I will never whisper, "Run, 964...show us the meaning of haste".  But somehow, I don't know that I could live any other way. 

I do not want what I haven't got.

304284197_7fb6061621_m Despite everything which has occurred in the past three months, I realize every day that I have far more to be thankful for than to despair over, no doubt. 

I don't know why the universe decided to strap me in a gyroscope and then dangle a helpless me five stories up...wait, that's David Blaine.  Well, that's exactly what life has felt like recently.  And it's so hard to not agonize "why??", or second guess choices, or prevent bitterness from seeping in, but if there's one conscious thing I've done to maintain my sanity and faith, it's giving thanks. 

There's nothing like focusing on what you have and appreciating the hell out of it to keep the dark away.  I write about puppies who bound up to and then on me, about babies who wave at me from their strollers and falafel-wallas who hook me up when I'm completely broke and need it most, but what I don't write enough about is you. 

I'm thankful for each and every one of you, for the comments you've left, the emails you've sent, the prayers you have offered.  I know that I am extraordinarily fortunate to have this virtual safety net and today, I give joyful thanks for you.

Continue reading "I do not want what I haven't got." »

I Want It More Than The Engagement Porsche

Ga_morford_tesla02

See an alternate view and a black one, too.

this makes me happy

Helloninja

I Love my Nana

July 20, 2006

Dear Anna,

Yesterday was Grandpa's 91st birthday. Goings on were special. We have been bushed. Today's mail brought twice as many cards as he got yesterday, and actually we got so many yesterday, we didn't take a count or roll call for those missing. Tonight His eldest daughter will arrive, and we will begin all over again.

I am pleased to have your e-mail address and I am interested in the kind of work you are doing these days. I've got Veena's birth day in mind, and sent a card/ I e-mailed her too,but the message came back. Grandpa just came in to tell me about storms in the Phoenix/Chandler area and he feels his daughter will not be able to make it here, so I must go do some research.

Till later.

NANA, GRANDMA MARJORIE

and then

July 27, 2006

Greetings,

I've been caught up with all the July birthdays and beside that, my computer acted up.   Waiting for the serviceman to get my scanner and printer back on track.  I've been told I can not hurt the computer, but that doesn't mean I can not get it locked up.
   
I am curious what your day's work consists of.  Plese inform me.   You are so good at speech and communicating I hope you are using that skill.

Neither Grandpa nor I are driving----and that really lets you know we are  old!    But, we are in a great neighborhood, and that says a  lot.   I hear Grandpa needing me.   Will drop in again soon.   

Love to you, Anna====G. MA

Now you are 28...

...and since that is the case, I must be quite old indeed.

194712144_7bfecf7c4b


No matter.  You will always be three (and perfect) to me.

My Birthday Dinner Brings All the Girls...

Sunday, 6pm.
Who is in:

  1. A N N A
  2. Brimful
  3. Shirley
  4. Lisa
  5. Chai
  6. Krustymol aka Sharon
  7. Sumy!
  8. Julie!
  9. Sini!
  10. Kenyandesi from SM, a.k.a. Anjali!

in other words, the BEST GUESTLIST EVER!  :D  i am soooo excited.  six fotologgers, seven bloggers and NINE fabulous females...who's a lucky girl?  ME!  i predict a riot! ;)

PLEASE NOTE: new shpot and time for my BIRTHDAY dinner :)

who is in:

  1. A N N A
  2. Brimful
  3. Shirley
  4. Lisa
  5. Chai
  6. Krustymol aka Sharon

still haven't heard from julie, while sumy is a "maybe".  we're meeting at 6pm so that shirley can come out and enjoy herself AND get to work on monday morning in one piece.  brimful is a far better party planner than i am-- she discovered a key detail, i.e. #$%&+%$#%&? Rasika isn't OPEN on sunday nights.  :(  who isn't open on sunday??? sigh. i am so bummed at this.  they are my fave restaurant.

no matter.  we shall not be deterred.  :)

our new venue is similarly pretty and just as well-located. they are so vegetarian-friendly and i can't wait to try one of their unique cocktails.  or five.  ;) 

any more RSVPs before i make our reservations?  :)  hmmm?  :) :) :)

DC: Sunday, January 29th at 8pm

who is in:

  1. A N N A
  2. Brimful
  3. Shirley (it's hard to resist typing her last name :)
  4. Lisa (no disappointing me, cuz)
  5. Chai (of COURSE you're invited)

anyone else up for dinner at RASIKA?  hmmm?  sumy?  jtmoney?

how my weekend was

Img_3427

For an erstwhile boo-boo who is leaving on Tuesday

Little one, come back.

Illuminate life again,

And my heart will whole.

Words from your fingers

Create such great ecstasy

Oh, how I’ve missed you.

From nowhere, a spark

Shocks my senses and summons

a tightly clutched hope.

Thank you for this day

For that olive branch inscribed

With the word…“maybe”

funniest. text. message. EVER.

with regards to my current bout of insomnia,
from one of my dearest, most beloved friends
who is obviously monitoring either his GMail
or his blog aggregator and thus is noticing
that i'm a busy little possum: 


GO THE FUCK TO SLEEP RIGHT NOW OR SUFFER THE WRATH OF SINGH!

i'm going, i'm going! :D

ode to joy

i've been glowing from yesterday's tryst with four fantastic females all day.  :)  i can't seem to get over how wonderful laughter, REAL laughter feels.  when you're giggling so hard your abs hurt, it hurts so good.  part of me, a wee little smidgen of me, is sad that this social afterglow is such a rare pleasure.  Sex and the City drones on in the background and I find myself wondering if that's what the five of us looked like to others, our heads thrown backwards, smiles so wide we could've accomodated carrots sideways.

suddenly, i have an undiscovered cousin and another legal eagle to add to a stable of advocating friends.  most of us hadn't met at least two of the others, that's what makes the candor and confessions so extraordinary.  five women who are concomitantly identical and distinctive, talking overwithandunder each other; it was the stuff of magic conjured over artisanal fromage and animal cookies, exotic flowers standing by as witness.  i wanted to write it all down, digitally preserve it forever...i didn't have time, i was too busy enjoying. 

:+:
no more time for yesterday,  tonight beckons...

this is the longest email from her, ever

Subject:  Just to say I love you :)

Hi,

I haven't been able to reach you.  How are you?  Hope everything is OK with you, Veena is fine.  She called you to pick on your brain, was nothing important.

Love you.
Mommy.

California...no doubt about it

I'M GOING HOME

FOR EASTER!!!

California, here i come...right back where i started from...  :) 

i haven't been at home since SEPTEMBER of last year, when i naively left for "two weeks in DC", for my cousin's wedding.  two weeks.  HA.

back to the point!  i'll be home!  for almost a week!  mummy, puppy, eileen perfume, godson, vinod et al...i finally get to be near you.  :) 

OMG!  Caffe GrecoOFFICE HOURS WILL BE HELD! 

oh, and brimfuli'd love to give you that *hug* in person.  :)

eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

happiness IS the best revenge.

Anna_is_happy_1greatest.

anniversary.

present.

EVER.

thankyouthankyouthankyouthankyouTHANKYOU!!!

:+:

dear people who wish i'd get fatter/darker/cry more/kill myself/disappear,

in the evocative words of one of the bloggers whom i enjoy most--and as my own, dearly-departed Daddy used to say-- SUCK IT.  so.  you thought you could chase me away from my interweb?  ha.  my laptop was broken.  that's why i've been extra quiet.  now, with my new "photo iPod", i'll be unstoppable.  (read: louder than ever...poor, poor haters.)

kisskiss,

your smirking quarry

:+:

"to be loved is to be fortunate, but to be hated is to achieve distinction." ~ minna antrim

someone loves YOU that much, too.

Dj blurb and little leta

must.

try.

not.

to.

cry.

...

...

...

or ovulate.

love (is) actually (all around us).

Fat_cheekshthere are only four things that make me regret moving towards the right.  one of those things is to the left.

i miss you booboo.  i heart you, too.

you're my walentine for the second year in a row, and i wouldn't have it any other way.

love and snakes forever,

AnnAkka

thank you tim, you have *no idea* how much i needed that

Hey Anna,
About a year or so ago I was out of the loop on the whole blog thing.  A friend of mine who was interested in being on Apprentice 2 sent along a link to your fotolog about your take on the tryouts.  That day introduced me to this brand new world of blogging. 

After checking out your blog and fotolog on a somewhat frequent basis, initially because i thought you were hot but over time I was checking it out because I enjoyed your writing style, i thought about doing the blog thing too.  So in July I started Tim's Take (
http://timztake.blogspot.com).  Its mostly me trying to be funny, as I talk about pop culture and my life in general. 

Lately its been more about my recent move from Boston to LA and the transitional period I am experiencing.  Anyways I added a link to your blog some time ago and let my readers know that I dug your site.  So I just thought I would let you know that, and thought I would pass along my blog for you to check at your leisure.  Enjoy!

Thanks,
Tim

:+:

me?  little ole ME?  inspired YOU?  yowza.  :)

the words between the teddy bear and the chocolates

On my fridge, right now, from this bit of wonderful :

Dearest Anna-akka,

Wishing you much peace, happiness, and "swooooning" bliss!

Happy Birthday.

Love always,

LS

kala chrisoulina, joyeux noel, feliz navidad.

oh, holy night...the stars are brightly shining.

it is the night of our dear saviour's birth.

long lay the world in sin and error pining,

'til he appeared and the soul felt its worth.

the thrill of hope...a weary world rejoices!

for yonder breaks, a new and glorious morn'...

have yourself a phenomenal PIXIES article...

and don't say i didn't get you anything for festivus, bitches.
.
.
.
i didn't like the picture of frank that Salon used for this piece, so i dug through me own files for the following three, b/c i LOVE THIS BAND THAT MUCH.

why am i risking wrath and retribution by putting this up? b/c i really want you to read this, b/c i LOVE THIS BAND THAT FUCKING MUCH. also, if you don't already have a membership to Salon, you should join. during that brief, halcyon-time when i had yuppie welfare (read: unemployment), it was the first thing i bought, after i took care of bills. no joke. i don't regret it at all, and the best part is having my mom be utterly perplexed at all the "Wired" and "US News" that are piling up around the house (i got subscriptions to both for free, with membership).

anyway. edify. i once wanted to name my offspring after pixies songs, b/c i LOVE THIS BAND...ah, you can guess the rest.
.
.
.


Bigpixies_1

"I don't know that we really changed anything"

Charles Thompson, the legendary -- and legendarily cranky -- frontman of the Pixies, talks about their sold-out return, their future, and why music journalism is so incredibly lame.

- - - - - - - - - - - -
By Scott Thill
Oct. 21, 2004 |

I said, "I wanna be a singer like Lou Reed"
"I like Lou Reed," she said, sticking her tongue in my ear
"Let's go, let's sit, let's talk
Politics go so good with beer
And while we're at it, baby, why don't you tell me one of your biggest fears"
I said, "Losing my penis to a whore with disease."

-- Pixies, "I've Been Tired"

Tired, indeed. Charles Thompson has been a busy man, ever since he picked up a guitar and dreamed up the fantastically twisted tales that lace the Pixies catalog like so much lyrical cyanide. Not only did Thompson, whom fans know as Pixies frontman Black Francis, churn out five commanding albums with his
high-impact modern rock quartet -- including two efforts, 1988's "Surfer Rosa" and 1989's "Doolittle," that are regarded by many as two of the finest rock albums ever -- but he's averaged around an album a year during his solo career as Frank Black, including his latest from SpinArt called "Frank Black Francis."

That Thompson's newest solo album riffs on his dual identities may not come as a surprise to the Pixies faithful, but you can be sure that the reinvented versions of old Pixies standards like "Caribou" and "Subbacultcha" at the hands of producers Two Pale Boys Trompe (also known as Andy Diagram and Keith Moline) will. But Thompson is a rock 'n' roll animal who can quickly become bored with whatever he's doing and is apt to follow his artistic muse wherever it takes him. How else to explain why the man U2's Bono called one of America's most gifted songwriters of all time (in "Gouge," a U.K. documentary about the band) would, without any real warning, break up what Bono (and many others) also called one of America's most significant bands of all time? How else to explain how, after years of refusing to answer questions about the Pixies and trying to downplay their significance, he summarily reformed the band 12 years after they'd called it quits and set about touring the world like nothing ever happened?

Don't look to Thompson for answers. He seems to be professionally comfortable when he's doing one thing only: making music, in the studio or on the stage. And even that seems a recent development; dedicated Pixies fans who remember that he looked none too happy playing concerts with the band sometime after the "Doolittle" tour will notice how Thompson seems to be truly enjoying himself this time around. Back in 1992, if bassist Kim Deal messed up "Debaser" and caused the band to stop the show in midsong, as she did recently at a packed gig in Berkeley, Calif., Pixies die-hards would have cringed and waited for Thompson to chuck an instrument at her. He's done it before. But in the Pixies' new afterlife, Thompson merely stops and good-naturedly heckles her before starting up the whole song again. With the new kinder, gentler Pixies, it's all good.

Continue reading "have yourself a phenomenal PIXIES article..." »

it starts with me.

"Freedom is not worth having, if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes." ~ Gandhi

+

"Be the change you want to see in the world." ~ Gandhi

=

a now-deleted post that was initially created out of pure, all-encompassing anguish.

in fact, i do have one of those.

this is dedicated to the memory of all of my long-suffering ex-boyfriends, who put up with me playing with, tying bows in, and braiding their hair, with nary a complaint or harsh word. :)


:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:-:

Sandy and Darryl Bem are both Psychology Professors at Cornell University.

The Bems, being well-versed in the area of sex roles and psychology, had decided to raise their children androgynously. This included not only the typical male-toy/female-toy aspects, but they were also very careful not to impose any of their own learned sex role socialization upon their children. For example, a frequent phrase was "the only difference between a male and female is that a male has a penis and a female has a vagina." When the parents were asked whether a person that the child could see was male or female, they would reply (even if the parents could tell which it was), "I don't know, dear, they have pants on, so we can't see if they are male or female."

One day, their son (then in Kindergarten) decided that he wanted to wear hair barrettes to school. Sandy and Darryl, of course, acquiesced and put barrettes in his hair.

That night, they got a phone call from his teacher (who knew about the Bems' rearing plan), who related the following story:

Upon arriving at school, another boy came up to their son and asked why he was wearing barrettes in his hair. Little Bem replied, "Because I felt like it." The other boy was visibly upset at this, but walked away.

A little while later, the boy comes back and says, "Why are you wearing barrettes in your hair? Only girls wear barrettes; you must be a girl." Bem, true to his upbringing, replies, "I am not a girl; I have a penis and testicles, girls have a vagina." The boy once again walks away.

During recess, the boy comes back once again, and insists that Bem is a girl because he is wearing barrettes. Once again, "The only difference between boys and girls is that boys have a penis and testicles and girls have a vagina."

The little boy exclaims, "You must be a girl; you're wearing barrettes." But Bem replies, "I'm a boy; I have a penis and testicles. Look--I'll show you!" At this point, Bem pulls down his pants to prove that he has a penis and testicles...

The boy replies, "Everybody has one of those, but only girls wear barrettes."

i would. i will. i *do*.

the_pic_from_calzones


click on this picture to see the (and my) other half...

yes, we always sit like that at restaurants. yes, the restaurants like it (the waitstaff certainly does). yes, i like it even more.

six pictures from my week away from the interweb exist here, on my fotolog. captions coming soon.

anticipation...

The night is nearly spent waiting for him in vain. I fear lest in the morning he suddenly come to my door when I have fallen asleep wearied out. Oh friends, leave the way open to him - forbid him not.

If the sounds of his steps does not wake me, do not try to rouse me, I pray. I wish not to be called from my sleep by the clamorous choir of birds, by the riot of wind at the festival of morning light. Let me sleep undisturbed even if my lord comes of a sudden to my door.

Ah, my sleep, precious sleep, which only waits for his touch to vanish. Ah, my closed eyes that would open their lids only to the light of his smile when he stands before me like a dream emerging from darkness of sleep.

Let him appear before my sight as the first of all lights and all forms. The first thrill of joy to my awakened soul let it come from his glance. And let my return to myself be immediate return to him. ~ RT


: : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : :: : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : :


off to the airport in six hours...off to bliss for six days. posting will be sporadic. love will be *constant*.

my words are unworthy, so i'll borrow tagore's...

I know not from what distant time thou art ever coming nearer to meet me. Thy sun and stars can never keep thee hidden from me for aye.

In many a morning and eve thy footsteps have been heard and thy messenger has come within my heart and called me in secret.

I know not only why today my life is all astir, and a feeling of tremulous joy is passing through my heart.

It is as if the time were come to wind up my work, and I feel in the air a faint smell of thy sweet presence.

now i get it...

ek laDakii ko dekha to aisa laga...
When I saw this girl, she seemed to me like...

jaise khilata gulaab
like a blooming rose;

jaise shaayar ka khvaab
like a poet's dream;

jaise ujalii kiran
like a glowing ray of light;

jaise ban me.n hiran
like a deer in the forest;

jaise chaa.ndanii raat
like a moonlit night;

jaise naramii baat
like a soft word;

jaise mandir me.n ho ek jalta diya
like a candle burning in the temple.

ek laDakii ko dekha to aisa lagaa...
When I saw this girl, she seemed to me like...

jaise subah kaa ruup
like the beauty of the morning;

jaise saradii kii dhuup
like winter sunshine;

jaise viiNaa kii taan
like a note from the lute;

jaise ra.ngo.n kii jaan
like the essence of all color;

jaise balakhaaye.n bel
like a twisting vine;

jaise laharo.n ka khel
like the play of waves;

jaise khushbuu liye aaye THa.nDii havaa
like a cool scented wind.

ek laDakii ko dekha to aisa laga...
When I saw this girl, she seemed to me like...

jaise naachataa mor
like a dancing feather;

jaise resham kii Dor
like a silken thread;

jaise pariyo.n ka raag
like a fairy melody;

jaise sandal kii aag
like the fire of sandalwood;

jaise solah si.ngaar
like the sixteen (traditional) ornaments of beauty;

jaise ras kii phuhaar
like a refreshing mist;

jaise aahistaa aahistaa baDHta nasha
like a slowly growing feeling of intoxication.

ek laDakii ko dekha to aisa laga...
When I saw this girl, she seemed to me like...

i love my sachin


best little brother ever [11:39 PM]: night night nanannana


Anna [11:39 PM]: night night, little one
Anna [11:39 PM]: dream sweet

best little brother ever [11:40 PM]: you TOO


Anna [11:40 PM]: ;-)


best little brother ever [11:40 PM]: ya lil monkey


Anna [11:41 PM]: :-D


best little brother ever [11:41 PM]: hee. night.

best little brother ever signed off at 11:41 PM

march 25

me_and_pd_at_es.JPG


i'm too tired to write you anything witty about how i spent the day w/pudge, running errands before coming home to moms and some BOMB chai. so i'm going to half-ass it and remind you that what's above is worth a thousand words...and someday, a carrerra drop.

i love my baby. :)

g'night...

i love babies with curly hair. hell, i just love curly hair.

picture_disk_025.jpg

awww, don't be sad...there's finally a whole new flog ready. cheer up!

oh, if only massive rejection could ALWAYS taste this sweet...

Oh Anna my sweet, such a union cannot be. I have thought long and carefully about proposing to you over my blogsite. One day, my readers would come to my blog and instead of finding a whimsical daily entry they would find my proposal. But ours is unfortunately a forbidden love. Think of the consequences of such a union. We are both dedicated bloggers. Upon accepting MY proposal, my bride would be swept off on an 18 country honeymoon tour (no conflict diamond engagement ring to waste money on). The rainforests of Costa Rica, a safari on the Serengeti, horseriding in the Mongolian Steppes, a retracing of Frodo's journey in New Zealand, sake bombers in Osaka...need I go on? We would both be too distracted living our lives together to blog (beleive me, you would be distracted), and would let down our helpless readers!! They depend on us Anna. For better or for worse, this is the life we chose. These are the cards we've been dealt. For the good of humanity we must remain apart and focused. There is one more thing you must realize, as bittersweet as it is. Think of our potential offspring! With your brains and talent (and stomach) and my looks and determination (and nice ass) our kids would become Superbloggers. Is the world even ready for such a creation? Frankly, I am not sure. People don't accept what they cannot understand and our superoffspring would face even more persecution than us. Just like me, you recognize that you are different or unusual. Imagine what the combination of our genetic material could produce (not that it wouldn't be a lot of fun trying). And so my sweet, this is our situation. A forbidden love. Blog on girl. :)


sigh.

baby boy you stay on my mind...think about you all the time, i see you in my dreams...

pdanny_075.jpg


i'm off to see my godson, the most delectably FAT baby i know...

and sachin? i can say that b/c you're no longer FAT. :) so no kvetch-y comments about my not being loyal to the original fat baby, etc. got it? you know akka loves you soooo much.

awww, fat cheeks are BLISS. obviously there will be pictures later on the flog. now if you'll excuse me, there is a cherubic face just WAITING to be vandalised by my lipglosh.

who's a lucky west coast vixen? *i* am.

ceo.JPG

note to self

fat_cheeksh.JPG

must remember to get one of these. :)


Addictive commentary on South Asian everything.
i mean this in the sweetest way possible, but if you don't like my blog, attitude or opinions, you may go fcuk yourself.
subscribe to my diary with Bloglines and read me as soon as i update.  it's how i read 75 blogs daily.

Bugmenot
my diary is listed on Blogwise

Chococat
Terror Alert Level



a final caveat: any comment, email or IM sent to me is fair game for publishing-- though i'll keep you anonymous, since i'm not mean.

thank you + enjoy. :)