So, the other day...I scribbled this, mostly as a note to myself (this is my diary and that's what I use it for):
I just found out that Ann Coulter is also a Delta Gamma alum.
I don't love my sorority any less, but I can hardly bear the thought that Ann Coulter and I are...sisters. Lord, help me.
Someone who lives up to their handle, who has never commented here before, left me the following sweetness:
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Younever talk about any of your sorority sister friends (if you had any), and at your age isn't it time to get over the whole "I'm a sorority girl" thing? P.S. I'm desi and was in a sorority too.
Since I am still quite acquainted with the four hazelnut martinis I had last night/in the wee hours of the morning (wOOt, flog meetups!), I'll engage in the entirely futile exercise of trying to address this contemptuous query. Hey, why not...I can't sleep, I need to hydrate, and focusing on potential haterade (RIP Barmaid) distracts me from my pounding headache. Goooooo hangover! Yay!
IF I had any? That's kind. I don't know if you're a new reader or just randomly passing through, but I'll say this for the benefit of the former; longtime stalkers know that there is a lot I don't talk about (80%), so I wouldn't base any assumptions on merely what is read (20%).
At MY age? Even kinder.
I'm not sure what your sorority experience was like, and I'm genuinely sad that it obviously wasn't as meaningful for you, as evidenced by your...well, everything, but from moment one, we were told that this wasn't a four (or five) year commitment; this was a lifelong relationship. When we bought our pins, we were reminded that our daughters would be legacies, and they'd inherit whatever we chose.
That's why we regularly recognize people who've been DGs for 60, 70 years or more. At their age, from your not-at-all-judgmental perspective, shouldn't they get over it?
I mean, I know, I'm SO ancient at all at 32, but fuck...those women are almost 80!
There are women in my building who didn't realize that I am an alum, until they ran in to me in our elevator and asked where I got my anchor flip-flops or shirt and vise-versa. They are white, though, so perhaps it's different, and they're allowed to not be "over the whole thing".
I'm tempted to ask if you were in a panhellenic sorority or a newer, local, multicultural house...but then I remember my friend S, who was in a Desi sorority. She's not over it, either. If one did leave it in college, where you seem to think it belongs, then by definition, it wouldn't help you network professionally or academically-- which is what most Alums on the other side of sorority life enjoy. I wouldn't have had the internships, job offers or access to a certain Senator I've enjoyed over the years, if I were "over it".
Beyond all of that, which I now feel like I wasted my time explaining mostly because people who leave drive-by comments aren't interested in actual dialogue, may I ask, why do you care? Or more accurately, why do you care enough to be so negative about it: "never", "if you had any", "at your age", "get over"? And what does your postscript about being Desi have to do with it? Like I'd find it less or more obnoxious if that comment came from a white, black or purple person?
To each their own. I love DG and like any heart-equipped person would, I'm still nonplussed that Coulter and I are sisters, by any definition of the word.